Today my 10 year old boy looked at me and said “Mom… I’m afraid I might grow up to be a hoarder.” He has General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) and has been worrying about a lot of things lately. A few days ago it was worries about his future. Today, it is the possibility of becoming a hoarder.
We’ve been driving out to help hubby’s mom prepare a rental house for a new renter. One of the nights that we had worn out but hubby was still going like an Energizer Bunny, kiddo saw an episode of Hoarders while waiting for his Dad to finish up so we could go home.
I know he worries about things. But I was caught by surprise that he would worry about that. I am so glad he felt comfortable talking about it with me. These are the bittersweet moments of parenting kids, especially kids with disorders. It pains you to see them struggle. But on the flip side, you get to feel so thankful that you are there for them, to help them through it as best as you can.
We were in the middle of the craft store picking up supplies to make Father’s Day Cards but I just wrapped my arms around my big kiddo and hugged him tight. I told him not to worry about becoming a hoarder. I told him it probably wouldn’t happen. I told him I would always be here for him. And I told him if he did become a hoarder I would help him. I told him I would come to his house and throw his stuff away and bring him a therapist 🙂 I can’t even begin to describe the smile that crossed his face at that last line. It was relieved. It was shy. It was understanding my sneaking in a little humor to help lighten his heart. It was happiness and it was love. It was one of the best things I have ever seen.
Much as it clutched at my heart to see my kiddo struggle and worry, I am also thankful for the exchange. I am thankful that he talked to me rather than worrying alone. I am glad I know so I can help him and watch out for additional anxious spells. And I am thankful that I was able to ease his mind a bit for the time being. I think that’s an important part of being a human being. Helping each other in any and all ways that we can. And we get to practice on our family, haha. All kidding aside, I think it’s best put to practice in our own families. And it radiates out from there – into our extended families, out through our friends and on into the world like a ripple in a pond. May there be many ripples of kindness bobbing your way ❤
I hope you all have a fabulous Father’s Day weekend with your family and/or friends.